Becoming a parent is not easy. It takes a lot of time and effort and dedication. It is a huge responsibility that cannot be transferred. You have to be ready in facing new challenges and trials. But of course if you are a first time parents, you can probably ask your own parents or friends on how they do it or perhaps how to properly do it. Here, you will learn a few that might be helpful and useful.
Principles of Being a Good Parent
1. What you do is important
– Children follow what they see in their environment. What you do can make a difference. So if you want your child to do good, show them how to. This is one of the most important principle.
2. Do not be too loving
– Loving a child is different from spoiling a child. “What we often think of as the product of spoiling a child is never the result of showing a child too much love. It is usually the consequence of giving a child things in place of love — things like leniency, lowered expectations, or material possessions.”
3. Be involved.
– it is very important to be involve in your child’s life. Let them know you are there to support them in whatever they will choose or do. In this way, they will feel that they are loved and not neglected. “It frequently means sacrificing what you want to do for what your child needs to do. Be there mentally as well as physically.”
4. Adapt parenting to fit your child’s needs
– remember every child is unique. Keep your pace to your child’s needs. Consider how the age is affecting the child.
5. Make and set your own rules
– you have to set child’s expectation. They have to know what will happen if they do something. They have to know their limitations. “If you don’t manage your child’s behavior when he is young, he will have a hard time learning how to manage himself when he is older and you aren’t around.”
6. Foster independence
– “Setting limits helps your child develop a sense of self-control. Encouraging independence helps her develop a sense of self-direction. To be successful in life, she’s going to need both.”
7. Be consistent
– do not confuse you child. You need to be consistent in whatever you do or say. “If your rules vary from day to day in an unpredictable fashion or if you enforce them only intermittently, your child’s misbehavior is your fault, not his. Your most important disciplinary tool is consistency. Identify your non-negotiables. The more your authority is based on wisdom and not on power, the less your child will challenge it.”
8. Avoid Harsh Discipline
– You do not need to use steel hands in disciplining your kids. All you have to do is talk to them. Let them know what is right and what is wrong. “There is a lot of evidence that spanking causes aggression in children, which can lead to relationship problems with other kids,” Steinberg tells WebMD. “There are many other ways to discipline a child, including ‘time out,’ which work better and do not involve aggression.”
– they have the right to know why so they deserve your explanation. Explain them why you create such rules so they will understand why. “Good parents have expectations they want their child to live up to,”
10. Treat them with respect
– it does not mean that they are only small children they do not deserve respect, of course they need too! They must see that you value them and give them the respect they most deserve. “The best way to get respectful treatment from your child is to treat him respectfully,”
There are a lot of things too that you can do these are just the basics. Happy parenting!